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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it wrong to want a cure for myself? |
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Replies: 4
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| Nothing reprehensible about wanting something for yourself that you think is harmless. But you may be overestimating the attractiveness that a cure would give you. As an Aspie I've got by, especially with finding partners, after a very unpromising start, and not all NTs are popular or wealthy. I'd b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Confirming an existing diagnosis |
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Posted: Yesterday, 11:48 pm
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Replies: 1
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| It would seem unlikely to me that a diagnostician would deliberately give a false positive diagnosis for ASD to get more customers, unless you appeared to want the result to be positive, and as you're skeptical about the result, that would suggest you just wanted to know the truth. But that's just m... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Question about psych evals and receiving benefits in the US |
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Posted: Yesterday, 11:04 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,890
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| According to my American wife, the nearer you get to retirement age, the less likely it is that they'll show any skepticism about the ailment(s) that your benefits are based on, because they have less to gain by stopping your benefits. They may ask questions to determine whether your condition has i... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: single for "life" |
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Posted: Yesterday, 8:54 pm
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Replies: 37
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| How do you feel about being single for the rest of your life and having no children? Or are you married with children? I'm partnered - married as a matter of fact, but to me it's how we feel about each other that's the really important thing. Fact of marriage is useful in case of partner death and ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Do/did any of you feel not good about turning 40? |
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Posted: Yesterday, 8:27 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Turning 40 was nothing compared to turning 65. Sudenly, I'm retiring, and trying to deal with Medicare, Social Security, my 401k, and what to pack for my overseas move . . . I was a tad luckier - UK pension paperwork not such a nightmare, though not exactly trivial, and I was mainly focussed on th... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Want to seem trustworthy to adult neighbors |
| ToughDiamond |
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Posted: Yesterday, 7:32 pm
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Replies: 16
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| Later on in his life he said "The police won't protect you, but they won't let you protect yourself either." At the time he had a lightweight fibreglass car, which the local gentry often saw fit to tip over late at night. So he bored a small hole in the tarmac and put a "concrete stud... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Do/did any of you feel not good about turning 40? |
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Posted: Yesterday, 7:04 pm
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Replies: 15
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| I certainly didn't feel good about it. Does anybody? I suppose it's one of those milestones that tell us we're not really young any more. In my case it didn't send me off the rails in terms of functioning. Mostly it was about the realisation of my own mortality, something I'd never faced before. Som... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Just need help coping with realization that I'm have ASD |
| ToughDiamond |
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Posted: Yesterday, 6:20 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 967
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| Well, good collective progress thrives on constructive criticism. In my case some of my bosses seemed threatened by my presumption that my opinion was as worthy of airing as theirs, but the better ones valued my input. People skills also help. I'm certainly glad to be out of it. I've seen one or two... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The American Dream Is Dead |
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Posted: Yesterday, 3:23 pm
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Replies: 76
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| . . . I don't think it works out for most people. . . I can't deny that fact. A person has to work just hard enough at just the right tasks with just the right skills at just the right time to achieve even the simplest definition * of the American Dream. I think us Boomers may be the last generat... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Question about social skills |
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Posted: Yesterday, 2:41 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 111
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| According to ChatGPT, this is a simple example of social-emotional reciprocity when it's done right: Sarah : Hey Mark, how are you doing today? Mark : I'm doing alright, thanks for asking. How about you? Sarah : I'm doing pretty well too. I wanted to check in on you because I noticed you seemed a bi... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Conservatives Embrace Gender Affirming Care For Men |
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Posted: Yesterday, 12:45 pm
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Replies: 1
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| Nice hatchet job on an odious ad. Some encouraging critical thinking there. Reminds me why I avoid ads like the plague. In my case the video is "preaching" to the choir. I appreciated the relaxed pace and lack of whizz-bangs. Interesting how the marketers think (perhaps correctly) that any... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Israel shredded the UN charter |
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Posted: Yesterday, 12:07 pm
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Replies: 16
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| My worry is that America, because it isn't helping Israel out of the goodness of its heart, won't get seriously tough until it perceives severe problems for itself if it doesn't. Meanwhile the UK intends to do nothing about it. Probably because Washington has told them not to. It doesn't much matte... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Post AI Responses |
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Posted: Yesterday, 11:34 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 148
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| I thought it was quite good especially for a robot. And observational comedy doesn't have to (and probably shouldn't try to) capture the real situation perfectly. It's not a science. I seem to remember a time when they said a computer program can't have a sense of humour or artistic expression of an... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Just need help coping with realization that I'm have ASD |
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Posted: Yesterday, 12:39 am
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Replies: 15
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| Yes I'm something of a conscientious objector to elitism, though those who like inequality would probably say that's because I can't get such a role myself. Not really true. I was once put in charge of a few members of staff, but it seemed wrong to push them around and I wouldn't do it even though t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How to mask |
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Posted: 18 May 2024, 10:46 pm
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Replies: 9
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| Well, if you really want to go that way, I guess you could study psychology and try to figure out what behaviour people warm to. Also watch how other people relate to each other. But personally I don't think I do a lot of masking. I try to just deal with people one-on-one where possible, and adjust ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Uptight |
| ToughDiamond |
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Posted: 18 May 2024, 10:35 pm
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Replies: 1
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shortfatbalduglyman wrote: Tracie had the nerve to call me "baby boy" (rolls eyes)
Captain Hindsight's suggested comeback line: call her "old girl." |
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