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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Informal diagnosis? |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2018, 4:54 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I think it makes more sense to say you're "on the autistic spectrum" than to say you're autistic, just because what most people think of as autistic isn't that accurate for many people on the spectrum. It can also be helpful to say you "have autistic traits", because then they're... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need of being loved |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2018, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,064
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| I ticked the second option. As someone else pointed out, it's not a need in the sense that food or water or sleep are needs. And I'm assuming the question refers to the more emotional kind of love. I would say everyone needs to be loved in the 1 Corinthians 13 sense -- i.e., we all do better when tr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you think - visual / verbal / patterns / other |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2018, 4:08 pm
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Replies: 69
Views: 6,799
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| I ticked "verbal" because I mostly think in words. But having read the discussion, now I'm not sure. I write fiction because I am 'seized' by visuals I 'have to' express -- this despite the fact that I have aphantasia (i.e., can't actually visualize things in my head). I have vivid and in-... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it easier for asocial aspies than social aspies? |
| shilohmm |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2018, 3:08 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,791
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| tldr answer to the question posed: I always thought it was easier for asocial aspies, but now I suspect I'm wrong. :D I imagine social aspies had a rough time growing up (wanting to fit in, rejection etc), but as adults they'll be the ones collecting the rewards. The idea that one or the other is mo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I hear but don't understand |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2017, 8:29 pm
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Replies: 17
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| I have this problem too. It's called auditory processing disorder. For me, I have the most trouble when there are other noises besides one person talking - if other people are talking or there's enough "background noise," I can't filter the person's voice out from the other noises very we... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My Mum thinks I'm autistic, so misinterpreting abusive past |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2017, 8:22 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 1,576
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| I think that's a plan. Any suggestions on things I should do pre-assessment are welcome. All sounds good to me. I know having it all written down makes it a lot easier. Also, good medical people tend to appreciate that sort of thing, while the controlling ones can get all flustered, so being prepar... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My Mum thinks I'm autistic, so misinterpreting abusive past |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 9:07 pm
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Replies: 35
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| Does he do the blame game as well, pinning it on you and saying that your traits were the cause of things? Not so much. He's not so much abusive as a jerk. :P However, the possibility of a solid, tangible explanation of many of my experiences, that I can predict and specifically address, is attract... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you feel about dentists? |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 11:59 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 842
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| I just couldn't get my jaw open wide enough on my own. They always got frustrated with me for that. This is why I can't stand going to the doctors. I've had a lot of doctors and med techs who got really frustrated with me for things I had absolutely no control over. (Well, and that time they pinned... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and Working |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 11:50 am
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Replies: 19
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| Do you guys work? If so, what helps you cope? Have you come out to your employer? I haven't to mine. I worked as a waitress for a summer, a couple of office jobs (one of which I got fired from in a month, even though I was doing both my job and my boss' job as well!), and as an office temp for cons... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: They're rude or I'm unreasonable? |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 11:06 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 188
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| Is that rude, or am I indeed being defensive and unreasonable? Quite rude, I would say. Rudeness, however, is socially defined -- it's different than a moral act, so while there's general agreement on morality (murder is always wrong, it's just that some cultures define some humans as lesser beings... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Different way of thinking causes people to avoid us |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 10:50 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,052
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| I'm with you and Jordan Peterson on this one. Wouldn't you think that psychologists, etc., would be just a teensy bit concerned about whether or not a society is inimical, if not frankly toxic, before encouraging people to conform to it? I guess, though, that requires an outsider's perspective to b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has someone a full-aspie family |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 10:37 am
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Replies: 21
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| May I ask you how your parents reacted? Did they send you to therapies? ABA? Tried to help themselves? Or simply waited? As a parent with two late-talking sons, I did some independent research and let it go for quite some time because it was clear they understood things. If I were to go through it ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Different way of thinking causes people to avoid us |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 10:23 am
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Replies: 24
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| I was repeatedly amazed at how much success in NT-world seemed to be driven by deception - of oneself or others. Still am, honestly. The biggest deception is that there are rational decisionmaking processes in business and in management. Alas. From what I've observed, it is almost all ego driven. I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: My Mum thinks I'm autistic, so misinterpreting abusive past |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 10:08 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 1,576
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| One point my Mum has that's probably fair is that I wouldn't drop things. She said something wrong or made a bad argument, and I'd stubbornly not let it slide and us move on... I was probably a bad match for an illogical parent with anger problems! For me, a disagreement couldn't be concluded when ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you feel about dentists? |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 9:47 am
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Replies: 22
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| I like going to the dentist better than going to the doctor, probably because doctors did worse things to me when I was little and they're also more likely to do things that remind me of abuse. Plus my teeth are pretty good -- I've gone over a decade without seeing a dentist (including a pregnancy, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do You Handle Being Challenged | Backed Into A Corner |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2017, 9:35 am
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Replies: 30
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| May I ask you to explain what you mean by internal aggression? What does it feel like? Is it anger, or assertiveness, or something else? I mean a determination not to be steam rollered, and sometimes a determination to "fight back" verbally. I suppose kraftiekortie is correct, and what I ... |
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