Do You Get Told To "Smile" All The Time?
Many women will feel resentful, as if she's outright faking, rather than make herself feel better due to the expression she forced on her face.
You're right, I noticed this too. Even NT women are annoyed by it.
I laugh often but I rarely smile and it happens only with people I like or love. Nobody comments on it, but we're a much more reserved culture here anyway and it would be seen as hugely inappropriate to say it to a stranger. Personally, I prefer genuine expressions of emotion and fake smiles make be feel uncomfortable...
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I lost a friend because I refused to have my photo taken with her. She wanted a big smiling photograph, but I don't do photos at all, let alone those with fake smiles. She never spoke to me again.
C'est la vie.
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C'est la vie.
Wow, that's extreme
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C'est la vie.
Wow, that's extreme
I stayed at her holiday let, and I'm pretty sure she wanted a photo for advertising. Regardless of the intent, I don't pose for photos or smile on cue. I was in one of my ornery moods and refused. This was maybe five years ago because it was after my stroke .... See ya later, sunshine!
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Many women will feel resentful, as if she's outright faking, rather than make herself feel better due to the expression she forced on her face.
Absolutely.
Also, it is not a good idea for a woman to smile at random strangers. A lot of men interpret it as an invitation that it is not.
That's right - but you don't even need to smile. Just don't look disappointed, angry or even totally emotionless and ice cold towards others or they may get it quite wrong, because they think that you are this way looking just because of the way you feel towards them and assume immediately that you are disliking or hating them.
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That's right - but you don't even need to smile. Just don't look disappointed, angry or even totally emotionless and ice cold towards others or they may get it quite wrong, because they think that you are this way looking just because of the way you feel towards them and assume immediately that you are disliking or hating them.
So, consciously monitor the way that your face might appear to others to ensure they don't judge or exclude you based on false assumptions about your character?
a) Wouldn't that be the same for men?
b) Isn't this called "Masking"?
c) What about people with natural Resting ___ Face ? Do they just self-monitor for others' benefit, 24/7?
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Many women will feel resentful, as if she's outright faking, rather than make herself feel better due to the expression she forced on her face.
You're right, I noticed this too. Even NT women are annoyed by it.
I laugh often but I rarely smile and it happens only with people I like or love. Nobody comments on it, but we're a much more reserved culture here anyway and it would be seen as hugely inappropriate to say it to a stranger. Personally, I prefer genuine expressions of emotion and fake smiles make be feel uncomfortable...
I'm generally pretty dense on matters of this nature but I've been painfully aware of this since I was little and it annoyed me then. People who try to pretend away double-standards on these sorts of issues have always raised my ire.
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Many women will feel resentful, as if she's outright faking, rather than make herself feel better due to the expression she forced on her face.
Absolutely.
Also, it is not a good idea for a woman to smile at random strangers. A lot of men interpret it as an invitation that it is not.
That's true!
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Not often. If I act serious and busy, people seldom bother me about minor things like my expression. I smile for pictures but it's usually forced.
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Many women will feel resentful, as if she's outright faking, rather than make herself feel better due to the expression she forced on her face.
Absolutely.
Also, it is not a good idea for a woman to smile at random strangers. A lot of men interpret it as an invitation that it is not.
That's true!
So, you know, when people smile back it's expressing consent.
I feel like in person it would be very difficult to not smile in response to that, and the harder one tries to not, the more likely they are to fail. Also, if we're playing Creepy Mikado, it's your turn.
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That's right - but you don't even need to smile. Just don't look disappointed, angry or even totally emotionless and ice cold towards others or they may get it quite wrong, because they think that you are this way looking just because of the way you feel towards them and assume immediately that you are disliking or hating them.
So, consciously monitor the way that your face might appear to others to ensure they don't judge or exclude you based on false assumptions about your character?
a) Wouldn't that be the same for men?
b) Isn't this called "Masking"?
c) What about people with natural Resting ___ Face ? Do they just self-monitor for others' benefit, 24/7?
It's quite the same for men and just because of this I even know it now. It may be kind of masking - but why not keeping a good mood? For ensuring an RBF or grumpy face? Keeping a good mood is a lot easier than to fake an artifical smile.
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