NT women behaviors

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Have you ever experienced the following behaviors from NT women?

NT woman doesn't like it when you know something they don't know( example: I knew when back to school night was but the NT woman did not)

NT woman always has to be right. Can't handle being wrong. Also, makes everything a competition.

NT woman tells other people something that you know is a lie. ( example: NT woman knew that I worked at the church school when she started working there. She tells everyone that she had no idea that I was working there when she got hired.)

What other unpleasant behavior have you experienced from NT women?

One thing that struck me about neurotypical women I've known intimately is that they're very status-minded and make a lot of comparisons to others. This seemed like a source of considerable discontent to them and got in the way of just enjoying the moment. I observed this in ex-wives and girlfriends. My observations are naturally limited and it's possible that NT men are the same way - it could just be part of being a social creature. It seemed that I was a lot more satisfied with the little pleasures of life.

Oh, with regards to always having to be right, I mistakenly thought that the german emblem was a phoenix, where it's actually an eagle. After my ex-wife told me this, I was quite surprised and looked it up on the Internet, because my memory was different. She got really steamed because she took it as me not believing her. In actuality it was more like I was amazed that my memory told me something else.

They have to gossip. It's like some sort of fixation for them !

As part of conversation elsewhere on web several years ago I Googled why women judge other women
and got, sampled from right now, (note that thing about competition down at end)

I want to put this one by itself for impact,

Catfights over handbags and tears in the toilets. When this producer launched a women-only TV company she thought she'd kissed goodbye to conflict...
By Samantha Brick
Updated: 09:36 EDT, 7 April 2009
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... lict-.html

I got bullied in high school. One of my classmates, a so-called friend, got jealous of me when I got a better GPA one semester. She ruined my reputation by backbiting. I did not mean to compete with her, but she felt I was her rival. I just loved those subjects and I studied hard because I enjoyed, not because I wanted to get A's. Since then, I have been careful around other women.

I don't understand why fashion matters that much among NT women. I have never been interested in fashion stuff. I wear conservative women's outfits that make me look ten years older and own only four pairs of shoes (walking/work shoes, sandals, formal but no heel and casual shoes). So long as I have clean and neat clothes to wear, I am fine. Some mean women picked on me because of that.

NT women's world is too sophisticated and they fight over petty things. I have witnessed a fight of two women in church!! One was very provocative and the other was full of jealousy. I stood there in the candle-lit hall watching them, thinking 'oh dear!'. Sorry, no empathy for them.

NT women tend to misunderstand. I think because I take things literally and so I am always kinda blunt. I am older and more careful with what I say to people now. However, when I am tired or frustrated, I let slip... Some NT women don't like this. Men tend to be more tolerant.

When misunderstanding happened, I tended to ask "why". This could worsen the situation. But, why? No doubt I limit my contact with most NT women. By the way, I once lived in a community full of women, didn't survive. One of them said to me that when there are too many women, often there are problems.

By the way, I don't generalise and there are many genuinely nice NT women out there. It's just that I have witnessed a lot of silly things going on in their realm where I never belong.

Yes.

I don't have to be right......no fun in that.

Ever consider that not every person who flies the Aspie flag is autistic? Some are just introverted nerds.

Men definitely do this too....but amongst each other. People compete within their own gender for position.

Men will compete with each other over their cars, yards, lawn mowers, church activities, their sons, jobs, and other stuff that men are into. Men are jerks to men that are unemployed. Men aren't into helping their fellow men find work unless that man is of extremely high social status.

Yup kiddo, that's the law of the jungle. I know a few blokes here and there that love helping others but mostly you won't find that.

I like finding people to help in one way or another. Even if it's just encouraging someone.

The one I struggle with (and I'm not sure if this goes for ASD women) is the touching and cuddling thing that NT women tend to do. I'm not sure when it's okay or not okay to do (even though I like being hugged or hugging my friends when I know its okay). Granted, I'm gay, so that adds a whole other level of confusion with it when I see this happen ( as I see this as an intimate act of trust /you don't do it in pubic, yet here they are cuddling/touching). High school was hell / making friends and social boundaries are confusing as frick.